Love is dissolution of the identity

#Love is dissolution of the identity, because until or unless we want to preserve identities, we cannot love.

This is complication of speech given by Vivek ji on the subject of #Love and #Life, the speech is known and admired as one on the best ever given speech on love and life


Love is dissolution of the identity, because until or unless we want to preserve identities, we cannot love.

Identity, we live for identity, or we have lived to create an identity, which will be dissimilar and will differ from others. This is how society fabricates us; this is how we fabricate our children, this is how our citizens are made, this is what our system of education is creating, this is what we have been taught.



Not all the wars in this world are the wars of government, political parties, or religions. All the wars in this world are the wars or clashes of identities, to put it differently, all the clashes are identity clashes, all the crisis of the world that we are confronting and that we will face (if we will be as we are), the crisis would be only due to the crisis of identity.

We all want to safeguard our identity; we expect to have a strong hold of our identity. We want to look different, we want to wear different, we want to read different books, and we want a different kind of man or woman to live with. Everything whatever we want has to be different because we have a deep relation in our unconscious to keep our identity. Love is dissolution of the identity, because until or unless we want to preserve identities, we cannot love.


Love is against the identity; in fact, love enters when the identities move out, when we have left apart the identities of our being that is when love begins, in reality love moves in only when clashes of identities end.


But we are so attached to it as that attachment brings the notion to oneself to be someone, to be something, and love is the journey of nothingness, the absolute void, love is there when only nothingness is there.


The identity of being something or someone keeps us away from our authentic nature. Not only does it keep us away from our authentic nature but also keeps us away from the living-in-the-moments. Winds blow but we do not move, we are as stiff as one can be, rains come down from the distant sky to the earth but it just wets the body, not the soul, flowers signify the divine beauty but it does not affect us because we are so stuck with the identity. We are stuck to our own bondage that we create in the name of identity. Identities are always a false form, a form which is not true, but we are stuck to it and slowly we get habitual of it, we talk in a certain way to convince, we walk in a certain way to be attractive, we wear certain clothes because it gives us attention and then we are stuck to it, we are habitual of it, and then what happens?


We don’t remember our own genuine nature, our own real being, we imitate in a way that’s so different from what we are, and love demands truthfulness, the real you, that you are and as you are, you don’t try to convince someone, love is not persuasion; it’s an exchange of deep harmony, in which two true beings merge together, together to be what they are, merge to be as they can be, merge to be as nothing…..

Love is the disappearance of the identity, because identity comes from the past and holds onto the future and love is not time bound, love is living-in-the-moment, and one can live in the moment only when the criteria of past and future is not there, love sets in motion when existence is only in the moment. In love there is no past and no future, past and future are there because it’s not shared, it’s not been said, and in love nothing can be kept secret, future or past are just a game of secrets, and in love; secrets have no place, no secrets can be kept, the closeness is such that even if one tries to, one cannot keep it, it’s an apparatus so small that can contain only love and not secrets.


Love is living-in-the-moment; we have so much confusion about living-in-the-moment, what does it really mean? It means something different that we never get through. Once you are in love, the past does not represent you because you have given your past to the one who loves you, to whom you have loved, past is a burden and in love you give away your burden, future is burden, you don’t keep it any more you give it away, and one accepts it as it is, you don’t care about it, because you have not kept your past with you, and when you have not kept your past with you, you cannot keep your future either, it is given, given to shape, to design, to do what is best, nothing is kept secret, everything is given as it is, ugly, beautiful, experimented, desired, everything. Because there is no fear of keeping one’s identity, once the past and future are not there, and so the identities too are not there, identity is the fabrication of past and future, what we were - fabricates our present and what we want - fabricates our future, but once you are in love all these questions do not arise, now you are yourself and not anybody, and you don’t want to be some anybody, you are what you are, and you will be what you can be, it is not decided, it is not made, it is natural…. so natural, identities are so bogus… unnatural.


Love is a revolution, and in a revolution past does not represent the future. Because revolution is the breaking link between the past and future. It is the moment when past breaks the link with future, now past cannot create the prospective future, because there is no link between them, revolution is there in between, and this revolution is a complete change, an absolute change.


Love is an absolute change, if you have not changed, it means you are not in love and you have never been in love. If you are still what you were, it means love has not happened; you have come back from the doors of love without entering. Once you enter the doors of love, you are not any more the person you were and you cannot be what you wanted to be. You are no more the same as you have known yourself; in a sense you are not any more, you are dissolved, gone, evaporated with the heat of love, now you can see yourself anew, you are a new person, a new being.

Love is an absolute change, if you have not changed, it means you are not in love and you have never been in love. If you are still what you were, it means love has not happened; you have come back from the doors of love without entering. Once you enter the doors of love, you are not any more the person you were and you cannot be what you wanted to be. You are no more the same as you have known yourself; in a sense you are not any more, you are dissolved, gone, evaporated with the heat of love, now you can see yourself anew, you are a new person, a new being.


Love is the creation of a new being, where there is no identity, no intactness, no closures, everything is open and vast. Love gives you a second birth, a new life appears, a new world is open for you and in this world, one has to learn how to live, how to be. You cannot serve this world anymore, as you were accustomed with the old world in which you had your previous birth, now it is new, one has to learn everything. Moreover, here there is no teacher, no school, no college, no curriculum; it is learning by giving, by accepting, by rejoicing, by mere presence, it is learning by soul, by care, by feeling, by emotions.


The biggest challenge is not love; it is the life after love, where one has to learn how to be. It is easy to open the doors of love, but to be inside and accepting its realities is difficult, because our life had been full of customs, it takes time to get rid of those customs, to get out of our mind, our senses, it needs support, it needs care and a passion to learn, learn how to be in love, it is a new life, a new way of living, but generally we refuse to learn it.


Love is not painful, the pain is there because we refuse to learn how to be in love, how to remain in love, it is a chamber of transformation. If one says love is painful it means one is not ready to be in love, one is not ready to leave the habits, the customs of the past, one is not ready to learn the parameters of a new life, a new world.


Identity is there to keep us away, love is to bring oneself closer and closer, identity is there to keep you apart and love says merge and merge, identity is there to keep you as you are, and love says disappear. Disappear, nothing remains when one is deep in love, because to be somebody, one needs to be in apartments of identities, love is a process in which two streams merge with the ocean, and become an ocean, the being of vast nature. What you were, is not anymore; what you can be, you cannot decide.


A stream of Ganges merges with the ocean; as soon as it merges, it loses its identity? It is no more, what it was. Moreover, it can no longer decide what it can be, as it is gone and is no more, as it has merged itself in the vastness of the ocean. Love is a similar process, in which the stream of our identities merges with the vastness, the ocean of love.


Vivek ji

(From the discourse given on love and life)

This is complication of speech given by Vivek ji on the subject of #Love and #Life, the speech is known and admired as one on the best ever given speech on love and life

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